Before giving testimony in a court of law we place our hands on a Bible and declare that we promise to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so help me God. If only it were that easy in our personal and professional lives.
Telling the truth is not something we can do on our own. We need several support mechanisms in order to do so. We need:
1. A process: many college and NFL football teams have a Tell The Truth Monday. It’s a review of the previous game and a process for finding what went well and what didn’t.
In our professional lives we need a tell the truth process. Whether you do so on Monday or Friday, you need a repeatable, non negotiable process that focuses your attention on what went well and what didn’t in order to improve and prosper the following week. In essence you need a process for removing your blinders.
2. A partner: We have a high capacity for deceiving ourselves. We tell ourselves the comfortable truth as opposed to the uncomfortable truth. The comfortable truth is the truth that allows us to stay comfortable and doesn’t require change on our part. Our partner in turn must be someone we know, trust and respect and who calls us out when need be.
3. A promise: Promises are key to telling the truth. When you promise yourself and the other important relationships in your life that you promise to look at your conversations, behaviors, word choices and impact on others, and do whatever is necessary to improve, you remove any doubt from the eyes of others and build credibility and confidence.
Monday Morning Mindset Challenge
Tell yourself the truth before you go any further. Which of the three support mechanisms do you need today? And if today is your tell the truth Monday, what from last week must you tell yourself the unadulterated truth about?